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Coping with Loss During the Holidays

When the holidays are not the happiest time of year . . .

“Christmas is coming; the geese are getting fat”….so goes the tune. Sounds and sights of the season.

Jingle bells, silver bells, Christmas bells, children laughing, presents, wrapping, shopping, decorating, cooking, eating, visiting, singing. Reds and greens, bathed in silvers and golds, in every corner, on every door. Smiling faces, Santa ho hos, lists of wishes and more. Much more.

For most, despite grumblings about not having enough time, traffic, store lines and scheduling challenges, it is genuinely the happiest time of the year. But, for others, Jingle Bell Rock is replaced by Jingle Bell Blues.

Loss, new or old, change the holidays from bright to dark. Smiles become forced, lethargy replaces enthusiasm, decorations are sparse if present at all. Cards don’t get sent, and ovens remain cold. Invitations go unanswered or declined.

What to do? You can’t ‘fix’ it, but you can bring a little light into the darkness. Be there. Fix a little treat. Bring a personal gift that says “I am thinking of you.’ Take time to visit. Share stories. Don’t forget to include the elephant in the room. Life will go on, but it won’t travel the same path, and the way may not be well lit. Light it with your attention, your compassion and the spirit of love that rings out with the Jingle Bells. They might not rock, but they you will be helping someone get through the holidays during a tough time.

If you or someone you know and care about are having a hard time this holiday season, please call Hotline 800-273-TALK (8255).   You are not alone.

Much love to all,

The Team at NVSL Magazine

Written by Linda Carducci

Edited by Jessica Monte

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